Yesterday I was complaining that there is no users manual for grief. We used to default to the 5 stages of grief, but that proved to be based on people’ responses to facing their own death, not coping with the death of others. I’m not saying that there aren’t commonalities between the two responses, just …
Category Archives: My Father
Emerging from the Bubble
This is another post that I am struggling to write. This is the first time I have been on my computer since mid-February and it feels like it has been ages. As you know, my father’s health has been an issue for years, a couple of weeks ago it took a precipitous turn for the …
A quick update
Thank you to all of you who have sent me good wishes. Although I did not acknowledge them all individually, I do appreciate them. I am working on a longer blog post on the subject, but the punchline is that my father is going into hospice care. We are just taking it a day at …
Focus, Focus, Where's the Focus
No real news updates on my father’s condition. Suffice it to say the prognosis isn’t great. Its kind of a rock and hard place situation. None of the options are particularly appealing. But no matter what, this is the situation we are faced with, so we will collectively just find a way to deal. I …
The Waiting Game
I woke up this morning to a series of messages from my brother alerting me to the fact that my father was back in the hospital, after being discharged less than a week ago, with pneumonia. My first thought was how grateful I was that this started happening after I was back on dry land …
And The Beat Goes On…
I just spent a week with 56 or so geeks and very limited wifi that was both slow and cost $0.89 a minute. That kind of brought us back to the pre-Google age. Every night, there were multiple questions over dinner that remained unanswered because we didn’t have access to the internet. It was both …
Be Careful What You Wish For
That picture you see? That’s the picture I took with my phone of the view from the table on the lanai where I was working while we were in Hawaii. Yes, you should be jealous. It was awesome. In fact, now that I am home, I am in serious withdrawal from Hawaii. It has been way to …
Sticks and Stones
My apologies for the recent radio silence. There has been a lot going on that has kept me fairly busy. Most recently was some exciting news from the east. On Thursday, my mother fell and broke her humerus (for those not in the know, that is your upper arm bone). Obviously, she is in pain …
A Budding Punster
Last night I arrived at my brother’s house to a very pleasant surprise. One of my niecelettes, A, was wide awake having a late-night (at least for her) snack with her mom. After a whole bunch of hugs and kisses, the east coasters declared it bedtime for all. After all, they have school and work …
Rockin' Around the Clock
After two difficult family meetings, we have all (my father included) decided it is time to move to 24/7 care for my father. The original plan had been to move my father into the spare room so my mother could retain her privacy. But at her request, my father will, at least for now, remain …