Many of my recent posts have been about what I need to give up or let go of during or because of the adoption process. But there is plenty that I want to hang on to. I have many good models of parents who have remained friends with folks without kids (as well as people like …
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Another piece of wisdom I have received from friends who are parents is to use this transitional period before parenthood to ready myself for my new role. I can already feel a major identity shift coming on and for the most part I am very much looking forward to it. But there are some pieces of …
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Lately several of my friends have been giving me the exact same advice. In a nutshell, they are all saying do everything I want to do now because soon my flexibility and mobility will be seriously compromised for a good long while. I don’t tend to go out much anymore for a what I thought were fairly …
In the past couple of days a couple of folks have commented on the optimism in my posts about the adoption process. David seems particularly committed to making sure I have a realistic handle on the potential timeline before we are matched with a birthmother. I have to concede David’s point, especially since he will …
[youtube=https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uoLoyg3JKRQ] I remember when I first learned the meaning of the word anticipation. Back in the dark ages (sometimes referred to as the ’70s), there was a Heinz ketchup commercial that used Carly Simon’s song. Given the music my mother listened to, I am sure I had heard it a million times before then, but …
One of my favorite books ever is called “Diary of a Wombat” by Jackie French. It is a hilarious tale of a wombat who lives “with” a family who take care of it, although not entirely of their own free will. The punchline of the book is the wombat declaring in his/her diary that humans …
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Yesterday David and I took a mini roadtrip and drove to Astoria with a breakfast stop in Woodland, WA. Woodland has a great local diner (with pumpkin pancakes in the spring, who knew?!?!?!?!) along with tulip and lilac festivals. After a delicious breakfast, we headed off in search of the lilac festival. We were told …
Today is not going quite the way I would like it to. It started out nice enough. I woke up with Dancer snuggled up to me, which is a new, but very pleasing behavior. I came downstairs, drank my coffee answered some emails and got a bee in my bonnet about going through the old …
Several readers responded to yesterday’s post with a variant of the question, “if you are so worried about being able to raise a psychologically healthy girl who is comfortable in her own body, why are you only interested in adopting a girl?” The short answer is because that when David and I envision our lives …
One of the well known aspects of the adoption process is that it involves a lot of paperwork. This weekend David and I completed the long personal narrative questionnaire. The questions were pretty much what you would expect, until I got to the one asking me to describe myself. I was surprised to discover that …