Today, at long last, I am finally getting to see Fun Home. I have been a fan of Alison Bechdel’s since I discovered her Dykes to Watch Out For series in 1988. When I first encountered her, she was an obscure lesbian cartoonist whose compilations were published by an obscure lesbian publishing house which went out of business …
Category Archives: Adoption
Love is Love
My brain is still agog with joy at this morning’s SCOTUS ruling that marriage is a fundamental right for all. I have never understood the opposition to marriage equality. It served no purpose, protected no one and simply served to make some families lesser-than. Today’s ruling corrected that injustice. And I can honestly say I …
Struggling with my thoughts
I have been working on this post for 4 days now. I keep getting about 300 words in and the deleting it all. My thoughts are all jumbled in my head and the words just don’t seem to want to cooperate. Every time I write a post I keep reminding myself that every one doesn’t …
Circular Thinking
Once again I have been delinquent in my blogging responsibilities. At least now I have a good excuse because the last few weeks have been crazy busy. Memorial Day weekend I was in Chicago hanging out with several friends, the following weekend we had a Baby and Toddler class and this past weekend was the …
A Still Mind
Right now my mind is anything but still. I have unfinished projects (some with looming deadlines), a lot of research to do, friends coming into town, trips to prepare for and then there is the whole getting ready for a baby part of the show. I am a strong proponent of Anne Lamott’s Bird by Bird practice, …
Where do I fit in?
Last night I went to go see Listen to Your Mother at the Alberta Rose Theater. The audience was almost the exact reverse of what I see at tech events. The room was filled with women with a few token men scattered throughout the audience. I can’t remember the last time I was in a room …
Moody Blues
Lately I have been feeling really down and insecure. A friend (who is also an adoptive mom) is attributing my moodiness to hormones. And there is data to back her up. Apparently, it is not uncommon for adoptive parents (and yes, I do mean parents. The data shows that fathers-to-be also have hormonal changes during …
I get by with a lot of help from my friends
Many of my recent posts have been about what I need to give up or let go of during or because of the adoption process. But there is plenty that I want to hang on to. I have many good models of parents who have remained friends with folks without kids (as well as people like …
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Letting go of what I need to leave behind
Another piece of wisdom I have received from friends who are parents is to use this transitional period before parenthood to ready myself for my new role. I can already feel a major identity shift coming on and for the most part I am very much looking forward to it. But there are some pieces of …
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Doing All the Things
Lately several of my friends have been giving me the exact same advice. In a nutshell, they are all saying do everything I want to do now because soon my flexibility and mobility will be seriously compromised for a good long while. I don’t tend to go out much anymore for a what I thought were fairly …